Anonymous asked: Hi, my friend for about 9 years has been ignoring me on & off for the past 3-4 years for no reason (any I know of, at least). When all my friends are gathered, she doesn't talk. Yet, she gets upset when we don't invite her to places; we honestly do, but she always makes up petty excuses, so we stopped inviting her very often. We're not excluding her, she's discluding herself. We don't know what to do with her anymore. Her birthday is soon & we're stumped. Please help? Thank you so much <3
Hey! i’m sorry I haven’t had the chance to reply to this, Tumblr confused me with the different blogs and..yeah.
Since you guys have all been friends for such a long period of time, I think the first thing you guys should try is just to confront her about it. If you’re all certain that she’s separating herself from the group, you all should show your support and let her know her actions are not going unseen. Things like this should all be laid out on the table in order for it to be solved. She might be going through a difficult situation and you may not be aware of it.
Also, there might also be the possibility that you guys are just drifting apart. Understand that this does happen, and there isn’t always an absolute reason for it - it just does. Keeping all of this in mind, just speak to her. And if all else prevails, I mean..what can you do, you know? But just show her that you guys care and are aware.
I’d say, go all out for her birthday party. Surprise her and show her that you guys are trying to keep the group together. c:
Anonymous asked: hi well i see that you give some pretty good advice and i need help so i came to you hope that's okay._. well my boyfriend and I well this is our second time going out the first time things didn't work and now 2 years later we got back together but he does things i don't like and i don't see the realtionship moving foward but i wanna be friends with him i really do! what's a nice way to break it to him without him hating me?:l
Honestly the only thing both of you can ask for is honesty. If you really feel that way, then there is absolutely no point in continuing the relationship. Be honest to him and yourself and just explain that things were just better when you two were friends. You guys have changed within the two years. You started out with a clean sheet of paper and once it’s crumpled, it won’t be the same again. I can’t provide you a dialogue for this, it’s honestly words from the heart. And well, you have to follow your heart, you know?
Anonymous asked: I found out I'm pregnant and I'm 18, the father is 24. My mom told me she'd support me any way I choose and any way she can, same with all my friends. Even the father told me he'd step up. My sister on the other hand keeps making me feel like I won't be a good enough mother, that I won't be able to care for my child. I don't want to go with abortion, but I feel like there's no other way. What do I do?
You have so much support and love from your friends, family, and hopefully, your future fiance/husband. One person, even if it’s your sister, should not have the potential to take away the love for your unborn child and the love others have shown you.
The other way is to give birth to the child and supply it with love and a happy family. Not everyone has what you have; the father willing to step up and a family who is willing to help and support you in any way possible. Your sister will see the light of things soon. But you should be happy! You’re pregnant, congratulations!
But if you’re really considering doing anything to the child, you would need to consult the father and your friends and family, yes, it’s your body and it is ultimately your decision, but allow everyone you love to be a part of it c:
Anonymous asked: Hi, I'm 15 and there's this guy that I've been liking for 6 months alrd. and i'll be transferring to a different school already after a few months, so do you think that it's a good idea to confess what I feel about him before I leave? My friend told me that I shouldn't because I will look desperate for him, I don't want to look like that either. So I'm kinda confused right now, maybe a lil advice? Thanks. :)
If you don’t tell him, you’ll always live with that feeling of, “what if?”
“What if I told him?”
“What if he felt the same but he was scared to tell me, too?”
The worse that can happen is him saying he doesn’t like you but regardless, it won’t be the end of the world.
I think he deserves to know and you deserve to let it off your chest. :)
Anonymous asked: My family hates me for being fat..what will I do?
Mine too haha
But honestly, you are who you are and have the frame of mind that what they think in terms of your body DOESNT matter.
They’re not you, they can’t change you. If anyone were to change your body well, it’ll be you. And if you’re comfortable with your body, then girl, work it! You can’t possibly expect someone to love you when you don’t love yourself, sweetheart. If you want change, want it because it’s good for you, not because someone out there wants you to change.
Anonymous asked: why you so cool? T.T
Aw thank you! But I’m really not ;-;
Anonymous asked: I feel fat. Not completey fat but chunky and not pretty enough. Nothings helping.
That’s me all the time. LOL. Everyone in my family tells me, “You’re so fat” and when someone else tells me, “No you’re not, you’re pretty!” I look at them like they’re full of bullshit.
I’ve come to hate my body, but that’s just me. I guess i’m used to it.
But I believe that “pretty” and “fat” are spiritual words that exist in the mind. Exercise half an hour to an hour on a daily basis, and eat healthy. Tell yourself enough is enough and look in the mirror every day to see what a beautiful person you’ve become. You don’t need to please anyone but yourself and trust me, you’re good enough.
Anonymous asked: Hi... I don't really have many friends. I go to a private school with a ton of bitches, and yeah I guess I have a few but there isn't any friend that I could say would call me their best friend. Not one. I have a person I grew up with since I was a baby and even she found prettier better friends than me. What should I do?
First, I don’t think you should ever feel as if you’re not good enough and there’s no one out there for you. Never let that fact cross your mind because quite frankly, that isn’t true. You’re just surrounded by people who aren’t into the same things as you and who have a different mindset. Bitches are everywhere, but sometimes, rarely, you seek out that one person who’s just like you. I doubt that everyone in your school is a bitch, you just haven’t found a friend who’s worth your time yet.
Keep your friends close but your enemies closer. Keep the “bitches” at arms length and open your social circle :)
Anonymous asked: I really like this guy. He's just, perfect, everything I look for. We've been talking 24/7 for the past month. And I swear, I'm the happiest I've ever been. But at the same time, the worst. He broke up with his ex around the same time that we started talking. Him and his ex were best friends, and recently they just made up and they're best friends again. I know he's not over her, and it really sucks. I mean, him and I are pretty close now, but it really sucks seeing him loving someone else.
I’m sorry it’s taking me so long to reply, I forgot how to look at messages on secondary blogs o-o
But you should understand that before he can move on, he needs to get over her. And whatever’s meant to be will happen. If him and his ex broke up, then there’s a reason. And if they need to sort some things out, let them. Just stay by his side no matter what and let him know that if he ever needs anyone, you’ll be there for him. Make sure he doesn’t take you for granted. Let everything unfold and see what happens.
If they’re friends again and he completely ditches you for her, then know that you deserve better. A better friend and some who can be potentially more. Understand that he’s not the only guy out there for you.
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